>I thought, what I was asking was if anyone
sees an mpa or has seen an mpa who definately enjoys you & likewise.
Right. No and yes, respectively.
>I see how the word arousal has put a spin on the question, and although
it's still a good question, I was not, per say, speaking of orgasm's.
Neither was I.
>I said "Attendant Arousal - Fact or Fiction", but I mean, and many of
you picked up on it - the "realness" of the session. She really likes you.
Not outside of the MP, not pertaining to future relationships, but
she actually enjoys seeing you. You are her customer at that moment,
but for whatever reason, 1. She's already has an SO 2. She has a rule
about dating customers 3. She's afraid to approach you
4. She doesn't want a relationship at that time
5. She thinks your attached and not interested
6. She just wants to keep the time in the room with you, IN THE ROOM
Right. The answer is no.
>Whatever the reason, the session she has with you, is like being with
a guy (not boyfriend) that you occasionally in your life, call up, get together,
have dinner, laughs, then intimacy. Someone you like, someone for that 1/2 /hour you can be real with.
Exactly. And the answer is still "no".
>Your funny, your nice,
Aw, shucks. You'll make me blush....
>you think the same, have the same interests,
and enjoy the intimacy aspect just as much.
Right. Still... gotta say "no".
>Just because the money is exchanged, and
continue's to be exchanged, doesn't mean the mpa doesn't enjoy you.
No. But other things do.
>If a woman is in sales, and she sells you a product, and you
like her and she likes you, you flirt whenever you meet at the office, is it
unfathomable that because you still talk business, and she is still selling you
that product that she cannot like you because you are still conducting business?
Of course not. But it doesn't mean that she IS attracted to you, either.
>She can still like you and supply you with your product, without taking it outside! You know, a secret attraction.
Yes.
>I can't understand how some men could say "No, she's
just playing with me, so I continue to buy her product" Of course, that could very well be the case sometimes, but not all the time. No way.
Yes way. And "gamesmanship" is not the only underlying reason, either.
You assume that friendly behaviour, good nature, and kindness MUST be definitive displays of affection. Because I don't.
Not HATING someone is much different than TRULY liking (let alone wanting to see) someone.
>That's when I start to think that maybe this man has issues with the constant thought that all females are out to use and abuse them.
Not at all. I've met some wonderful women, who have showered me with both kindness and pleasure, with no suspected ulterior motive. I adore all of them... some WAY more than I should.
But I have no delusion that the adoration is anything but strictly uni-directional. With one possible exception (and I still can't figure that out), I have yet to see anything to suggest the opposite.
>Your mpa may not to be able to take things further, she may not want to take things further, it doesn't mean that unless your get her out of the MP, in her apt making love to her, that this is the only sign of true affection.
Of course not. But in the absence of ANY other sign of true affection, it's not very logical to make that the conclusion....
>I find some men,( I said some), write women off so quickly ... that you have approached her differently.
Seems horribly impolite to "approach" her at all at work.
>I used the word arousal, because although it is deemed by many people
a "sexual" word, in literature, porno etc...the word arousal, as VBB said,
can mean arousal physically, mentally, emotionally etc....but I did mean
it almost how it was refered to, but a little two-fold, or sorry, three fold.
Physically, mentally & emotionally. She enjoys you physically, engages in conversations with you mentally, and you share the same emotions.
Right. No, on occasion, and not even close. In that order.
>I wrote this real late, so forgive and please disagree if you feel necessary.
I am always open to different opinions, and I love analyzing people's different
personality's. Please don't refrain from explaining your points!
Nothing to forgive. You sound like a very nice lady, and I should like to have had made your acquaintance.