Confessions of a Hobbyist – How I became an NYE…

[betty s/nikoly]

Every week I read a new thread about some poor guy who’s fallen for an MPA. I used to think of these guys as stupid and naïve; until it happened to me.

I’ve always prided myself on being a star hobbyist; I’m fit, clean, successful and damn good at extracting the coveted GFE experience from even the most professional MPA. That said, I always knew where to draw the line: I never requested phone numbers, dates or got remotely emotional. Indeed, I usually can’t get out of the room fast enough after the release.

It all changed a couple of years ago when I started seeing an MPA who decided she wanted to hook-up with me outside the spa. At first, I dismissed her suggestions as typical ego-stroking bullshit. The more I turned her down, however, the more persistent she became, until finally, I decided to take her up on her offer.

The ensuing weeks were a mishmash of incredible highs and terrible lows. The amazing sex, crazy fun dates, late nights and her sexy voice msgs had me in a whirlwind of insane living that jeopardized everything I had worked for. Anyone who can juggle a marriage, a career and an MPA girlfriend has my undying respect and admiration. It almost killed me.

Why did I do it? I fell in love with her. I don’t know how it happened. One day I was laughing at loser massageplanet.netites who professed their love for her while I was banging her everywhere from her apartment to the back seat of my car; the next day I was one of them; completely obsessed and in love. My once objective handle deteriorated into a meaningless shill. I became the very massageplanet.net loser I had so foolishly held in contempt.

That isn’t the worst of it. After our short affair ended, I continued to see her as a client, spending $1000s in hopes of rekindling our passion. Sadly, our passion never lasted more than 30 to 60 min. Invariably, I would leave our sessions feeling depressed and dejected. I had never felt so alone.

Desperate, I became a paradigm source for NYE satire. I started to search for a new lover at another spa. A few weeks later, I was at it again; dating and sleeping with a new MPA in an effort to get over the first; renewing the vicious cycle.

Why did I do it? How did I become the massageplanet.net loser who looks for love in all the wrong places? It was the only way I knew how to ease my pain.

Luckily, other obligations curbed my crazy lifestyle before I lost everything, forcing me to re-assess my life, my marriage and my perspective. Now, if I hobby, I go for the session and if I see an opportunity for more; I run like hell.

Be careful what you wish for dear hobbyists; you might get it and find that its something completely different than you bargained for!

 

[Mr.Klaus]

gutsy post...

 

[Glitch]

SC thanks for your insights. I too consider myself above the 'fools' who fall for MPA's and believe that I share a lot of your characteristics. Lately, there have been times when I wondered about seeing someone outside of the MP when a MPA has dropped not so subtle hints about hooking up.

A post like your brings me back to reality and all the BS that would likely ensue if I gave in.

Thanks for sharing your experience!

 

[Amayzing Asian Persuasion]

Geeez, all I want is a HJ?

 

[seven]

There used to be a saying that went...."Cocaine is God's way of telling you you're makin' too much fuckin' money!"...

Sometime I think MP's are another sign from God....

Stealthy, you have my admiration...and sympathy, because, there, for grace of God...go I....

 

[phouzhan]

agreed.

 

[Sophie Salazar]

Misty,

If you're saying an MPA's place of biz is no place for love or romance, I couldn't agree with you more.

 

[Mordent]

First of all Stealth, I DO respect your honesty and openness. There aren't alot of hobbyists out there who would confess publicly to falling for an MPA...

I believe that permanent emotional damage is a hidden "cancer" that befalls clients and MPA's alike.

That said, I had to read your post a couple of times before the following sentence really struck home:



Notice the word "marriage" buried deep in the post...

Do you REALLY believe you're a victim in all of this ?

What were you promising the MPA; that you'd leave your wife and start a relationship with her ?

Did she call your bluff ?

Many clients who fall for their MPA's seem to be single, lonely guys who would rather visit an MP than sit at home alone looking at the 4 walls... unfortunately you aren't.

Believe me, I know ALL about shitty marriages. My wife had a Jekyl & Hyde personality and it took all my willpower to leave a nice house, lose $$$$ and live in an apartment again by myself. At 38 it isn't easy to hit on the hot 24 year olds ...

I'm sorry if this comes across as arrogant and preachy, but if you want to live by the sword you'd better be prepared to DIE by the sword...

... and that means the risk of getting caught... or an MPA taking advantage of YOU ....

PS>> I'm not 100% convinced you're original post is totally serious. If you simply have a twisted sense of humor my apologies

 

[mad92300]

INDN_LOVER,

I thought I could live by the sword; I was wrong.

Thanks for your insight...seriously.

 

[Bob Loblaw]

Too true man...

 

[Princess Cherbs]

If you're talking about the same MPA as I think you are, as beautiful and seductive as she is, she cannot just love and commit to one guy as long as she is in this business. You were probably Boy-toy#3 or 4. Someone to satisfy her desire to be loved but not exclusively. Just an observation from one of my fellow friends who is also a massageplanet.netite.

 

[lin]

Bottom line is that he FELL IN LOVE WITH HER AND STILL CAN'T GET OVER HER because she was probably the best lay he ever had and the most gorgeous lady he has met and can't find another like her anywhere else.

 

[yet-knish!]

There's some truth to that.

 

[fvfv81]

QUOTE]Originally posted by Mystique Misty
Im asking how does it happen that a gent falls for an MPA enough at her place of work to ask her out or to be a part of his life enough to give up everything for her ? It seems like a unlikely enviroment to fall in love or experience GFE ? Misty [/QUOTE]

Misty... I am assuming that you are an MPA or SP. Is that correct?

I can't understand the above quotation at all. Have you ever met someone in the grocery store, post office, shopping centre, the Purolator guy that you have fallen in love with? Why is falling for an MPA so different? Are they just not people?
Earlier you had mentioned how many guys the MPA has seen. However, MPAs don't do FS. How does that compare to the girl who has had 20 boyfriends so far, but has slept with 40 different guys?? What's the diofference?

We are all different and we all have different perspectives on the world. For many people, sex and sexual acts are a natural part of life. For others, it is a very sacred act that is reserved for special and private moments with heavy emotional attachment.
For others, it has become just something you do, and there seems to NO emotional attachment.

I would suggest that workers in the sex trade fall into the category of being desensitived to the emotional aspect of the acts that they are providing. From your posts, it is obvious that you only consider the service you provide as being similar to the guy you hands me my sandwich at lunch or the girl who answers my phones at work or concierge at my building that opens the door for me.

I would also suggest that workers in the trade who are unable to detatch this emotion often get into alot of trouble with their clients as they are unable to handle the "transaction" in a personal manner.

Regardless, providing sexual services is a very personal experience that can cause even the most experienced of hobbiest's judgement to be clouded.

For myself, when I go to an MP or SP, I am just not looking for BBBJ, DFK, DATY, FUK, CIM, DIM, LPT, RIM, BLS, ....... ... I am not interested in seeing how far I can push the girls limits, how many positions I can indulge in etc... I am looking for a human experience. When I first started in this hobby, the lines were blurred, and I had to take a step back to recognize that if I was not careful, I would end up in the same boat as Mr. Charmer.
I have met some very wonderful ladies in this business, and I have met some money hungry leeches.

As it is, I am still friends with an MPA that has quit the business. About 6 months ago, we had a frank discussion when our lust was in full bloom. The end result was that we decided to remain friends, because neither of us would feel comfortable knowing about her past.

However, I could have easily been swayed in the other direction

 

[Sachin]

Once again, I admire your honesty....

Believe me, on more than one occasion I've gotten caught up in the moment and left a session wondering "what if"...

The only way around this for me was to plan my next session with a different MPA as I was leaving the parking lot.

 

[ASIANESE]

Man You guys are all speaking right to ME. I find myself in the same position right now and am trying to decide how to tone it all down. I will pay close attention to all this. It's nice to know I'm not the only one to fall into this situation.......Thanks

 

[Tails]

I'd say your situation is similar to fall-to-pieces' and although you let things get out of hand, neither one of you is even remotely close to being as fucked up as New Years Eggy.

Live and learn.

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[jerlovesmetal]

NYE ain't the real thing.

Humble D, however, was another story.

 

[Jordan M]

Seriously,

Some of these girls are hot, but all I want to do is get off. As soon as you marry one, she becomes your wife!

As my man Airboss once said, “I didn't even get that emotional over my first girlfriend"

 

[newroom]

Agreed.