Routard, I read your post with interest. Good on you for enjoying PT Dorsten.
I went there once, and found it very much as you described. Hanging around in the hallway upstairs was about as erotic as a dentist's waiting room. I made the strategic error of turning up on the discount-day (Tuesday), there were more men than women all the time. The women seemed to spend ages hiding away behind their private door. Most were a bit old and flabby for me, but there was one young and good looking girl, so I was happy when she came out and called "Who's next?" (or words to that effect), and nobody else made a move. So I followed her into the small room, dumped my towel and we settled in the middle, between two other pairs. A brief BBBJ a, condom, and she lay back and spread her legs. I played my part and stuck my dick in her. Like you, I didn't just want to fuck and shoot, so tried going slowly. But looking at her face, turned away from me, I suddenly saw her as wearing a kind of all-over mask. She was so absent, and I thought she must be a slave, she would not do this voluntarily. I went limp and got off her, not even a "Danke". I sat on the couch in the corridor and considered what was happening. No, this place is not for me. I dressed and left. One of the guests, a Belgian I think, asked me why I was leaving so soon, I could not explain and so made the excuse of jet-lag, that I had not slept since Australia, and had to go and sleep.
I congratulate you on managing to break through that strange atmosphere and make contact. In the FKKs, the girls are interested in you because you give them money, and the good ones know how to give value for it. In PT Dorsten at least, the girls seem to have no incentive to even pretend an interest in you. They are not competing with each other. Perhaps the best they can get is a nice long slow relaxed session where they can get some rest without getting in trouble with the management.
All this of course is miles away from Wan King's enthusiastic report on the place. I did not recognize any of it when I got there.
Despite all this, I want to try some other PTs, see if they're all as bad as each other. I hope not. Perhaps the "rules" (written or not) in other PTs will not be as depressing as PT Dorsten. Also, the layout of the place has a big part to play. There were just the fucking places, and the waiting places, and you couldn't even watch in comfort. Yes, there was sex, but there were still so many unspoken taboos.
I've shortlisted 3 PTs to investigate, and would appreciate any info about them: They are:
Jennys Partytreff Xanten
www.partytreff-xanten.de
Partytreff-MG in M