what do you you do when you find your husband/wife having a VERY personal chat...

[shi_luv]

...with someone else? this is including XXX pics and explicit dialogue... He is making himself out to be single with no attachments no physical contact between the two that I can tell, this girl is not a local person or even any one in the same state. I don't know how to approach this one some advice would be nice

If he is doing this does it meant he will eventually go farther and have a physical affair????

SO LOST!!!

 

[SweetTea]

I would beat his face in with a cast iron skillet before he even knew what was happening.

 

[malibu]

i would smack the shit out of him!!! he can't b doing that... where's the respect? yeah if he is doing this while you are present.. what is he gonna do when you're far?
have a serious talk with him. HE NEEDS TO MAKE UP HIS MIND so u don't keep on wasting your time.

 

[Timothy]

That doesn't matter he or she is wrong and disrespectful to you. You need to confront him/her and do what is legal and not violent along the lines. Protect your heart and feelings.

 

[Jude]

adultery begins like this first with talk, than the real deal. you need to confront your hubby, what he is doing is cheating on you, just because it hasn't gone farther yet doesn't make it ok.give him an ultimatum, and if he keeps contacting the other woman you will have to decide what is best for you.

 

[Panama Joe]

If he's exchanging XXX photos with some bimbo, then that IS cheating! I'm afraid that you'll have to confront him, and give him the old ultimatum, "It's me, or her; choose!"

Don't let him weasel out, either.

 

[hepmom back for more!!]

We get turned on and have great sex.... HOWEVER... when engaged in chats like that, I always:
~ tell my husband immediately, as it is happening.
~copy&paste the chats into an email and send it to him.
~If it is a long chat, I send periodic updates.
~I never attempt to pass myself off as single. All the XXX stuff comes from what I have been doing with my husband
~I do not exchange pictures. I have people contact my husband and ask him for picture, he usually says yes and sends them.
~If he tells me to stop, I stop.

I would confront your husband for sure. It doesn't necessarily mean he will have a physical affair, and I would try to determine the reason behind his actions. Attention? something different? excitement? feeling needed?

For us it's not cheating, lying. being secretive...it's nothing like that. It's erotica. Your situation is different and I'd figure out what is really going on.

 

[Nehru]

Leave him.

 

[Pan]

This is the one you caught him doing. From experience for every one you catch there are probably ten you dont even see. You are better than this, and he doesnt deserve you. Run for the hills, because if a man loves a woman, he cannot indulge in this sort of behaviour. Its crass and unfeeling.
He is the one who needs to get lost.
Hope you find yourself a good man who doesnt cheat and doesnt lie. Its a minimum requirement.

 

[CHICKA]

Tell him, Do you want your marriage or not, because you have cyber cheated and I won't let any man of mine do this to me. So if you want your bimbo, then buddy boy, get out of my house, and I'll see you in court

 

[eutopia]

First off he is being very disrespectful towards you. You need to confront him abbout all this. Ask him how he would like it if you did the same to him. It doesnt automatically mean he would cheat on you, but entering into something like this with this other woman is a sign that he feels he is missing out on something. Or it could just be that it excites him. TBH, you need to talk to him about it and get to the bottom of why he is doing it.