So after finding logs of my girlfriend chatting relentlessly with one of her exes, I started to get paranoid whenever she was chatting. FOR LIKE A WEEK!!! She got all upset that i was confronting her, but she assured me it was nothing. So after that week i just said forget it and stopped being paranoid. I tell her that we should just have some quality time here and there without her text or even me surfing the web. This is a LDR and we webcam often. So she says okay with enthusiasm. But for the past week, i've noticed she asks us to go to sleep and we will with the webcam on. She waits for me to fall a sleep or think i'm sleeping and then gets up to chat.. I pretend i'm sleeping and i actually didn't care the first two nights.. but she keeps doing it so i would pretend to get up and she quickly falls asleep again. Why doesn't she want me to know? what is she hiding? So i confronted her after a week of this and told her as gently as anyone could and said that she didn't have to do that. That i was only paranoid for that one week because of the logs. She persists that it was only because she couldn't sleep. Okay?? So why pretend to be asleep when i get up?? Finally she gives in and says that she knows i don't like her chatting because i don't trust her. well umm, that's kind of true, but i haven't even said anything about since getting over the logs with her ex?? all the months before the incidence she chatted her heart out and I didn't even care.. It just frustrates me that she would lie so convincingly about chatting. Makes me think she just can't resist chatting with her ex or any other guys for that matter.
It's just upsetting that she would lie lie lie about the whole waiting for me to fall asleep and then chatting. HELP!
thanks for the replies. I was hoping for someone to tell me its okay. I really don't want to end it with her. :-( I trust that if she doesn't want to be with me, then she will leave.. not drag me through this. perhaps she just doesn't want me to get upset about her chatting so she hides it? don't girls do that? Is there a possibility that nothing is going on? sigh. stresses me the heck out.
I know what it seems like. I'm making excuses.. But she goes to class with her ex.. and I'm not even sure if the mid night chats are with him or not. . sigh. thanks everyone.
It's just upsetting that she would lie lie lie about the whole waiting for me to fall asleep and then chatting. HELP!
thanks for the replies. I was hoping for someone to tell me its okay. I really don't want to end it with her. :-( I trust that if she doesn't want to be with me, then she will leave.. not drag me through this. perhaps she just doesn't want me to get upset about her chatting so she hides it? don't girls do that? Is there a possibility that nothing is going on? sigh. stresses me the heck out.
I know what it seems like. I'm making excuses.. But she goes to class with her ex.. and I'm not even sure if the mid night chats are with him or not. . sigh. thanks everyone.