Question How to quit this hobby

[starartwork]

I agree. They ask for the moon for crappy service. 95% of them are useless.

 

[semi4life]

How to quit this hobby

Hello all, today is a different kind of post than my usual ones as I am seeking help. In regards to the title, I need support and advice on how to quit this hobby. It would not only help me but help others who would also like to.

If you care to read this part carry on. I began this hobby two years ago and it has been something that has started to take over my life in a way. I used to laugh at the idea of how can you be addicted to sex? What even is a sex addiction? It’s a natural instinct in our biology isn’t it? However realizing now and experiencing it on my own I realized it’s a real thing. When it’s all you think about at work, at school, when ur with ur partner, first thing when you wake up, before you go to bed then perhaps it’s an addiction. It’s something I want to stop doing however I just can’t. If anybody can give advice and methods on how to leave this hobby it would be greatly appreciated. I may relapse again however it is apart of the journey and it is part of the journey!

it is like smoking. take it step by step. say you hobby 5 times a week, instead of not hobbying at all. reduce the hobby little by little

I'd say it depends. For some people it has to be cold turkey. If you really think it's an actual addition then you probably need to treat it as such and figure out what works best for you. That might take a few iterations to get right.

IMO part of the allure of the hobby is the lack of responsibility. You get what you want, when you want it, with no strings attached. If you're not careful and do it too much, that can erode your character (just follow a number of the regulars here and you'll see what I mean).

perhaps find a hobby to get the mind off.

Or maybe try something to offset what you're doing. Volunteer somewhere, get involved in a community organization. Use your commitments to those activities to set limits to your hobbying and stick to them.

Whatever you decide, good luck!

 

[Deleted member 94419]

I'd say it depends. For some people it has to be cold turkey. If you really think it's an actual addition then you probably need to treat it as such and figure out what works best for you. That might take a few iterations to get right.

IMO part of the allure of the hobby is the lack of responsibility. You get what you want, when you want it, with no strings attached. If you're not careful and do it too much, that can erode your character (just follow a number of the regulars here and you'll see what I mean).



Or maybe try something to offset what you're doing. Volunteer somewhere, get involved in a community organization. Use your commitments to those activities to set limits to your hobbying and stick to them.

Whatever you decide, good luck!

Really appreciate this advice a lot I’m going to try my best. I have hobby’s however I’ll hone into them better and try to distract myself more as much as possible

 

[tnzep]

How to quit this hobby

Hello all, today is a different kind of post than my usual ones as I am seeking help. In regards to the title, I need support and advice on how to quit this hobby. It would not only help me but help others who would also like to.

If you care to read this part carry on. I began this hobby two years ago and it has been something that has started to take over my life in a way. I used to laugh at the idea of how can you be addicted to sex? What even is a sex addiction? It’s a natural instinct in our biology isn’t it? However realizing now and experiencing it on my own I realized it’s a real thing. When it’s all you think about at work, at school, when ur with ur partner, first thing when you wake up, before you go to bed then perhaps it’s an addiction. It’s something I want to stop doing however I just can’t. If anybody can give advice and methods on how to leave this hobby it would be greatly appreciated. I may relapse again however it is apart of the journey and it is part of the journey!

You could try SMART Recovery. They have discussion groups for sex-related addictions and hold on-line meetings that you can join without showing yourself.

 

[Mantel]

Go with the intention of seeing any girl this week. Before you go, make a list of things you could buy for yourself with that money. On that list, put some monthly bills could you pay with that money as well.
As you get closer to the destination look at that list and think to yourself, 45 mins of "pleasure" or whatever is on this list that is for me and I can use or keep.

See if that works.

 

[Deleted member 94419]

The answer lies in another question. "Why did you start in the first place?"

This is a question I must ask myself which is a very good one and one I never thought to ask. I really appreciate this a ton I’ll do a lot of self reflection with this one. Thank you so much

 

[Deleted member 94419]

Go with the intention of seeing any girl this week. Before you go, make a list of things you could buy for yourself with that money. On that list, put some monthly bills could you pay with that money as well.
As you get closer to the destination look at that list and think to yourself, 45 mins of "pleasure" or whatever is on this list that is for me and I can use or keep.

See if that works.

This is awesome and amazing advice. I really appreciate the advice I’m getting and thought I would be getting a ton of trolls on here however you guys are genuinely helping me. It’s so very appreciated and it won’t only help me but help someone else who would like to quit this hobby as well.

 

[Deleted member 94419]

This is good advice. It's a good way to add to replace this habit. Useful things can improve one's life and purchasing and using them and not allowing hoarding or accumulation is worthwhile means of changing this habit. At some point, however; things bring you back to the root problem (whatever that is - why did I begin in the first place?). Things take time to maintain and use, they're a good time killer.

Hobbying was to satisfy curiosity and obtain experience. Will mostly continue as long as I remain single. But this was an effect to solve a different 'cause'.

Guessing at some causes which bring one to this hobby might be:

-Rejection
-Loss
-Anger
-Hidden needs (from childhood)
-Stress (work, family, partner)
-or some form of self sabotage (alcohol, drugs, sex)

Fixing one of these is as valuable as buying something with money

For me if I really think about it it might be hidden needs from my teenage years. Seeing as though I was extremely shy and timid it was hard to get laid at times although I had more than enough opportunities to have that happen looking back. With this girls it’s transactional I get what I want then leave. I’m not justifying by saying that but it’s the reality. Somewhere inside me there’s some holes that need to be filled and I guess I do it via hobbling which isn’t good. I’ve also always been an impulsive person and self control was always hard for me. That will power to stop myself is something I need to work on harder

 

[Deleted member 99408]

Proud of you man.

 

[BS4ME]

Learn to get really good with using your left and right hand. You'll have no problems after

 

[Rahul Toronto]

Learn to get really good with using your left and right hand. You'll have no problems after

Or ask your mother to suck your Cock and your Dad to rape you up your stinking ass like your dad always rapes you. How's that for an idea ugly fuckin mother fucker

 

[BS4ME]

Or ask your mother to suck your Cock and your Dad to rape you up your stinking ass like your dad always rapes you. How's that for an idea ugly fuckin mother fucker

Stop following my posts you fucking psychopath. Only a fucking mental nut job would go to every single one of my posts to write some rape comment. We all know you got rapped already. Give it up.. You ve got mental issues.

 

[Rahul Toronto]

Stop following my posts you fucking psychopath. Only a fucking mental nut job would go to every single one of my posts to write some rape comment. We all know you got rapped already. Give it up.. You ve got mental issues.

You've been raped ugly mother fucker. How often does your father rape you ugly mother fucker? Maybe ask your mom to rape you again fuckin psychopath

 

[Karlurbanz-01]

You've been raped ugly mother fucker. How often does your father rape you ugly mother fucker? Maybe ask your mom to rape you again fuckin psychopath

Well that's an interesting post to see first when joining this thread *backing away slowly*

 

[semi4life]

Well that's an interesting post to see first when joining this thread *backing away slowly*

One of the reasons the ignore button exists

 

[R Evil4]

One of the reasons the ignore button exists

Done.

 

[Deleted member 74795]

For me if I really think about it it might be hidden needs from my teenage years. Seeing as though I was extremely shy and timid it was hard to get laid at times although I had more than enough opportunities to have that happen looking back. With this girls it’s transactional I get what I want then leave. I’m not justifying by saying that but it’s the reality. Somewhere inside me there’s some holes that need to be filled and I guess I do it via hobbling which isn’t good. I’ve also always been an impulsive person and self control was always hard for me. That will power to stop myself is something I need to work on harder

Finally down to seeing one girl on the regular. The way I look at it I have already quit the hobby. Putting the money aside, I don’t have it in me to see different people all the time anymore. I no longer can.

 

[semi4life]

Finally down to seeing one girl on the regular. The way I look at it I have already quit the hobby. Putting the money aside, I don’t have it in me to see different people all the time anymore. I no longer can.

Your not the OP but sounds like you had a similar goal. Kudos if you've hit it then

I think it's good for everyone to take a break from the hobby every now and again. Let's you take a step back and reevaluate your priorities