Heh heh... actually, there's no conflict there -
The signifigant difference between Pornstars ('erotic performance artists') and 'whores' mostly revolves around WHY they do it - and with whom.
Violet performs in porno 'cuz she LOVES to do it... And it most certainly shows in her scenes! She DOESN'T do it for the money (ie, she earns more working in Toronto than she does in LA by scads and scads - she told me so herself, and that is totally consistent with what I know to be true about how little Pornstars get paid for their work) she does it because IT GETS HER OFF!
Whores do it for the money, indiscriminantly, and they'll do basically anything for anyone for the right price. Violet has sex with people SHE LIKES when she's into it. This doesn't mean she's not going to ensure really good service to casual clients... but for those who treat her like she's their date, not their whore, she's a damn-sight more likely to get into the whole GFE thing.
She and I discussed her love of her new career at length, and she's got precisely the right mindset and attitude for it. (I've consulted to some of the owners of the companies for whom she's shooting, and I have befriended and been with (and even dated seriously) a number of major pornstars over the last decade... so I am not talking out of my hat here.) Many of the girls who work as performers WOULD BE or had been street hookers or escorts if they hadn't gotten up the nerve to do porn... and those ones get chewed-up and spat-out by the Industry in no time - No one wants to work with someone who's only there for the paycheck, no matter WHAT field they're in.
Personally, I opt NOT to hire industrial-grade escorts (agency workers, etc) because I crave intimacy; I get a lot more out of being able to feel relaxed and comforted by an SP than I do by pumping-away in them in a condom, y'know?
I pay my shrink US$300 an hour to help me work out anxieties and tensions, and to understand myself better... without the "Happy Ending" so I don't mind paying marginally more for an overall better experience, at the end of which I feel GREAT, not just physically, but content with the world, satified with myself, and generally happier. Oh, and for the record, my GF _KNOWS_ of my spending time and money on 'unlicensed psychotherapist' like Violet (and yes, she knows we fool around too) and she's much happier about it than my having romantic affairs with traditional rivals.
Ya follow?
Philski