As I am reading through the reply's on this thread I can see that many
of you, through no fault of your own, responded to this thread in many
different forms. I even re-read my original thread, to see if I was
indicating something else. I thought, what I was asking was if anyone
sees an mpa or has seen an mpa who definately enjoys you & likewise.
I see how the word arousal has put a spin on the question, and although
it's still a good question, I was not, per say, speaking of orgasm's.
I said "Attendant Arousal - Fact or Fiction", but I mean, and many of
you picked up on it - the "realness" of the session. She really likes you.
Not outside of the MP, not pertaining to future relationships, but
she actually enjoys seeing you. You are her customer at that moment,
but for whatever reason, 1. She's already has an SO 2. She has a rule
about dating customers 3. She's afraid to approach you
4. She doesn't want a relationship at that time
5. She thinks your attached and not interested
6. She just wants to keep the time in the room with you, IN THE ROOM
Whatever the reason, the session she has with you, is like being with
a guy (not boyfriend) that you occasionally in your life, call up, get together,
have dinner, laughs, then intimacy. Someone you like, someone for that 1/2 /hour
you can be real with. Your funny, your nice, you think the same,
have the same interests, and enjoy the intimacy aspect just as much.
Just because the money is exchanged, and
continue's to be exchanged, doesn't mean the mpa doesn't enjoy you.
If a woman is in sales, and she sells you a product, and you
like her and she likes you, you flirt whenever you meet at the office, is it
unfathomable that because you still talk business, and she is still selling you
that product that she cannot like you because you are still conducting business?
She can still like you and supply you with your product, without taking it outside! You know, a secret attraction. I can't understand how some men could say "No, she's
just playing with me, so I continue to buy her product" Of course, that could very well be the case sometimes, but not all the time. No way.
That's when I start to think that maybe this man has issues with the constant thought that all females are out to use and abuse them.
The same thoughts go for some women as well, believe me, I see it, and hear it!
I think Goodtime touched on this issue in another thread.
He hated it when the mpa only thought he was a perv in the session when he just
wants to talk or have a nice time.
Your mpa may not to be able to take things further, she may not want to take
things further, it doesn't mean that unless your get her out of the MP, in her apt making love to her, that this is the only sign of true affection. I find some men,( I said some), write women off so quickly, if they don't get her phone # at that cafe or cinema that moment, well then forget it. All hope is lost. God forbid he mention
he will be at that cafe same time next week, so she might reconsider. That
stuff is so exciting to women, right away, the women is taken a back. "Wow,
every guy begs for my #, asks for date etc....this guy introduced himself,
we chatted and he actually walked away from me without asking me for my
phone #, he said he comes here every week. Hmmm. She smells a challenge. She's interested. Your different. And she admits to herself that she did enjoy talking to
him and found him to be a cool guy. That will simmer in her mind. And she may
show up next week to see what your about, because you've already showed her
that of all the hundred's of requests she gets a year for phone #'s and dates etc...
that you have approached her differently.
I used the word arousal, because although it is deemed by many people
a "sexual" word, in literature, porno etc...the word arousal, as VBB said,
can mean arousal physically, mentally, emotionally etc....but I did mean
it almost how it was refered to, but a little two-fold, or sorry, three fold.
Physically, mentally & emotionally. She enjoys you physically, engages in conversations
with you mentally, and you share the same emotions.
I wrote this real late, so forgive and please disagree if you feel necessary.
I am always open to different opinions, and I love analyzing people's different
personality's. Please don't refrain from explaining your points!