Do you know what Claire, it sounds like an absolute carbon copy of how my daughter was while i was in and out of hospital and when i came home. There is only a year between our two.
It was like she had a new-found hearing problems! I was forever telling her off for the same thing over and over again....i felt like a flipping parrot!!....And got sick of the sound of my own voice!! I felt like telling myself to shut up!!
It was a reaction to everything though, as we both know.
It took a while to re-adjust, she thought i would have to go into hospital any given moment and she was just scared i guess.
Now though, she is settled as i have managed to steer clear of hospitals (apart from physio and my wound check) for a good few weeks now.
Behaviour-wise, I tried a star chart, with rewards, but it SO doesn't work with older kids! It was effective for all of one day!
So i tried something that they do at her school....its like a reward chart, but instead of boring stars, they have this little sticker thing that they move up the chart every time they behave. They have snakes and ladders type things, or suns that get brighter the more higher they go and its a bright golden one when they get to the top!
We made a tree, and it really works, my daughter took a while to get to the top, but she got to the top eventually and she got a new DVD. Obviously, i can't really take her to fun places just yet, so found little rewards worked too. I got her involved in making it too, i drew the tree and she decorated it however she wanted and made her little sticker.
I was exasperated and exhausted by her blatant disobedience, particularly after just having surgery, i could have well done without it, so had to take action!!!! Her behaviour is tons better, by no means perfect (what kid is!!), but is more manageable. I am a single mum, so when my friend eventually left me to fend for myself after about 10 days, it was hard work!!!
I am so sorry to hear you suffer from fibromyalgia as well, you poor thing.
My friend's daughter has recently been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, a few months ago. She has not long ago had a flare-up. She has not long turned 18, so sticks two fingers up at it because she would rather be hitting the town! Oh to be young and resilient again!!!
I relly hope that your flare up will be short lived, and that you start to feel better really soon, Lots of love Ali xxx
We have got a Wii too, its the only thing i will miss about being on sick leave, bumming around playing video games!!
(In between physio exercises of course!!)