in love with a bargirl... big question here

[tannysyd89]

went to a bar on a popular soi in patong. I hate to pay for sex, but this night i was verry drunk so i decided to look at some girls in the bar. I[/B]
Ok he was a Newbie - His words. I hate to pay for sex, but I was drunk and went looking for girls in bars...... So he knew already he had to pay and did not pay.....

 

[Agalloch]

OMG... don't forget we may be old now, but we can empathise. We have all been 21 and fallen in-love.. and had our hearts broken. So many times we lost count... its just when it's happened lots of times you pretty much get used to it and can handle it a little better. I and plenty of the other guys will have been in a similar situation to you in our 20's. It does hurt... and your gf probably feels rotten too. But trust me.. you will feel better in a few days.

But if you really want to get her back... tell us her name and which bar she works in... and I am sure one of us can sort her out for you...

and you can move on to someone you will probably like more than her...

 

[alizemuffin]

I am back in the UK... working

so that I can come back to Phuket.. have a few beers, push the handsum 20 yr olds out of my way... chat up the gorgeous BG... sleep with her... tell her I love her... go back next night and sleep with her mate... and then next night... move bars/towns...
:

 

[Woody Black]

enjoy it but wake up.....you are only 24.!!!???? enjoy what the world has to offer before you settle..plenty of time for that.....
...remember..., "one should always be in love, that is the reason one should never marry"....o.w.

 

[enci2005]

For fcuk sake !!!! Just pluck her and forget her in the morning !!!!!:intello:






PS. If this thread is like reading a womens magazine.......

.............your post should definately be on the "Problems Page".

 

[Pompal 09.]

I've got a Guild myself. It's a 1977 D40 cutaway, rather rare, and made in Rhode Island. I wanted to bring it here but I'm afraid the humidity would ruin it. I'll probably sell it next trip home. :

 

[martinhea13]

***update***

great post butterfly blonde!

5 days ago, i asked her: why the first night you didin't ask me money? She told me that she was shy, but now she loves me and she want to go with me in phuket town like we said.

OK to continue (because lol no its not was not finish finnally)

The night she went party too drunk, finally we talked for 2 hours and i failed. I beleived that she didin't take a short time. (i know i'm stupid, or i want to **** this beautiful lady again...) I saw her sleeping in her room at 5:30, but before i dont know.

Anyway, yes i failed. I stayed with her. Everything was ok till tonight, again. First time she dont call me and it was now 11:30. So i called her and no answer. I'm like.. ok i go see her in the bar. I went there and suprise, she's not there!! Ok now i give up... go to my room and 1 hour later, she calls me. We speak and i tell her: i know you lie, i'm tired to hear your lies, so if you want to speak to me, you tell me the true.

So she came to my room and lie lie lie for 30 minutes... i said look, if you don't tell me the true, i go away tomorow, i'm tired. She was crying and said: ''OK i had a customer tonight!! But this guy is my friend (lol) he lives in phuket, i always see him in disco but we just are friends. He payed the barfind, payed me 1000 bahts, we went to disco, kiss on the cheek (lol) but no sex and blablabla. I worked in patong and i'm with a falang boyfriend (me) so when we go back in korat, my familly and friends expect me to have money and i will have to pay for party, alcool, food etc... But its been like 3 weeks i'm with you and i didin't make money. But i didin't want to talk to you about this because you said you are not a ATM and you don't want to go there to just give money. Now i told you everything, no more lies. Its the only costumer i had since i'm with you i promise (lol)''

So i said, ok... just don't tell me you did nothing with this guy, its one more lie and i'm tired... Go in your room and i call you tomorow.

So tomorow, i will give her money and go away.

Yes, i think she loves me. I REALLY THINK FOR REAL!! but money comes first with bargirls.. I think some people can accept that, but even if i know she loves me, i think i can't.

 

[Sheilla W]

thanks for your answer

I searched the newby area abreviations for BM (board member) and RTG (Rose tinted glasses; You only see the pleaseant parts) But sorry, i don't understand. It Means that MAV too had the same experience has me?

Anyway, don't think that i don't listen to you. I just want more answers.

I just want to know, WHY she don't ask me money? Why she wants me to wear nice cloths cause we go clubbing and she wants to impress her friends. Why she were mad cause i was drunk and always chatting and looking her cute friend. Why she wants to come with me in phuket town and quit her job? She know i have money but i'm not rich.

 

[just a little question...]

OMG look like 95% of what i'm living with her

I'm a poor newby

 

[Gliders R Awesome!]

Now i know. Its not cool to not pay a bargirl cause they have familly to pay, sometime they are shy, they want your money in long run etc...

But man, you really think that a newbie thinks of that the first time if she don't ask?

 

[KaNi]

you are extrapolating that as she made 4300 in 2 weeks she will make 8600 every month. Even if she makes that, is that enough to cover the needs and the debts of her family and herself? Don't forget everything in Phuket is more expensive than Issaan. I suppose that even not having to pay for her "room" she also needs some things for herself, clothes, a small present for somebody, shoes, make-up, give a dring to friends, transport etc...

 

[pooh Bear]

Rather strange comment coming from a monogamous guy, who is in a loving relationship with a TG for several years now!

 

[frogysue]

Why does it matter ??? Thats your own insecurity coming through.. Doesnt matter if its 10 guys or a 100..

Also your pressuring 'truth' out of a Thai bar girl.. Thais dont relate to truth in the same absolute way westerners do.. Truth is what causes the least harm, the most face, etc.. You have lots to learn to handle or get truth out of any Thai let alone a bar girl..

Doesnt mean shes not a good chick, doesnt mean that you cant work something out.. But all your saying so far are your insecurities (not paying for it, needing to know how many others, etc etc etc).. You need to relax, let it happen, on your terms, and under your control, if you want any success. That applies to office girls, college girls, bar girls, etc.

 

[jbauer14]

Ha ha ha.. Admit it, youd turn for Pablo !!

I have to kind of agree, I think the girls will find an attraction.. maybe an infatuation with the younger guys.. But I also know girls who have been around the traps a few times say things like "Why I want a young man, what can young man do for me ??" and these being girls talking when they know I had a wife / GF so no (less) bullshit.

 

[Kaidell]

From what she said about her experience in the month before they met, the
"poor girl" missed out a lot more than 4 or 5K Baht. I would say more like 20 or 30K Baht, as she is said to be a stunner.

She is not stupid. She can count. She knows what she is giving up to go with him. She has her reasons for making whatever choice she makes. It is up to her. Give her a little respect for being able to make her own choices. If the money is worth more to her, then she will stay in the bar. If it is worth more to her to go with him, and give up the bar income, then that is what she will do. If she decides she made a bad decision, she can reverse course whenever she likes.

 

[Jessica P]

Put a young handsome kid next to an old ugly fart with money, and the bg will go for the money every time! If I said it once, I said it a million times: it's about the money, it's always about the money, it's only about the money. :rules:

 

[sweetjone]

Like people have said before, if you are happy with her give it a shot. Tell her to stop working bar and for her to show her commitment to you, tell her to get a job as a waitress, or work in central or any place that is not in Patong.

Rent a house for a month (I know brand new ones in Phuket town 7k a month) try it out, if it works thats good. If it doesn't don't worry about it. Just dont give her loads of money.

Enjoy your holiday and relax... plenty more fish in the sea!

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[man from utopia]

yeah, can totally see that (i mean the tg's repsonse, not me being turned on by Pablo 5555)

but joking aside, i do agree with what you are saying

maybe have that initial attraction to younger guys and will take less $$$ but a lot of the girls settle in with an older guy for stability

 

[just being honest]

OMG you should see her :surprised:

Hehe, no i dont want to marry her. And obv, i don't want to buy a house, but rent it.

But really, she is polite, beautiful, CALM (so important for me), funny... i really have good times with her, so if i knew what is on her mind, i would go with her all the way. But i paranoi so much right now. I don't want to **** my trip in thailand because of a girl who just tell me lies. But the only thing that makes me beleive she is lying is because of my friend and the first reply of this thread...

 

[farzkitty]

me bragging? James bond is nothing compared to you

Ho and i told her that if she comes with me in phuket town i will support her. So she knows she will have money in long run like everybody say...