Mongering and SOs

[chgguubb]

Damn, your wife HAS GOT TO BE banging someone on the side, maybe your super, or the yoga instructor, or someone from here...... no way in hell that middle aged ass only getting tapped twice a year, no way.

 

[quaz]

Agree 100%. I would much rather monger than enter into a full-blown affair. The fact that at the core, its a business arrangement and there are some understanding, that makes it easier for me to justify and engage. It also reduces possible blow back since many ladies don't want any issues either.

 

[Carlacarleewalge]

The last time i had sex with my SO is 3 months ago. And before that 6 months. So basically, within a 1 year span, we fucked twice.

I kind of accept this fact and otherwise everything is great. My rationale is my SO is not giving it to me so i have to get my fix somewhere else.

Going into a relationship is not something i want or have time for. When is said and done, nothing is free. So i might as well pay up front so there is no chance it will fucked up my otherwise good home life.

 

[vitvlqqd]

First of all this belongs in the Free Style thread where its been discussed in various forms ad nauseum. But to eliminate some distress... u and about 10,000 other mongers, hobbyists have dealt with the same feelings. I have the EXACT same situation that you do. Call it genetics, call it the primal urge from the primordial swamp. Rationalize it anyway way you want. You can go out, find some new strange... have some fun, danger, adventure... and go home and live your normal life. 1. Never fall in love with a provider. 2. Never fall in love with a provider. 3. DON'T get caught. 4. NEVER fall in love with a provider.

READ thru the many threads on this board that show you in minute detail how to NOT get caught, and other experiences we all have like yours. Enjoy yourself, love your SO, and if anything it will allow you to stay in your relationship. Leave your guilt at the door. We are men. We are pre-programed for variety. Have fun stay safe and READ.

 

[Gudda,(:]

@Aquaman: That type of play really tests a friendship. I never liked the odds and there is no good ending no matter where that relationship went. Besides, your friend now owns the rights to busting your balls. for example...

(your friend) "Yo water"
(you) "sup man?"'
(your friend) "Did you kiss her yet?"
(you) "Yes. It was sweet bro!"
(your friend) "How'd my dick taste?"
(everyone at the bar) BWAHAHAHAHAHA!

@Intense: Cheers dude!

 

[Aaron_J88]

I never felt guilt at all. If my wife was putting out and I felt the need to stray, then I might have felt that way, but I feel like I was driven to mongering my my wife's complete disinterest in sex, so no guilt.

Here's a bizarre related factoid. For a brief while I was having a non p4p affair with the ex of one of my best friends. Even though she was his ex and he was with someone else, I was always more afraid of him finding out than of my wife finding out.

 

[Maryshaye]

Good analogy Pudge.

 

[oops]

Monger guilt is like downing shots. At first it burns and brings out the tears. By the 3 or 4th, it's going down smooth and you feel really nice, brave and don't give a shit about "nuthin'".

 

[Gator]

Hi guys, I'm relatively new to the scene, and there's something I've been struggling with recently. At home, I have a great girl who loves and cares about me, but I find myself craving other women. I turned to mongering (particularly AMPs) as a quick and discreet fix. After experiencing what's out there, and quality of talent in NYC, I'm hooked.

How many of you guys have SOs, and started mongering while in your relationship? Did it make you feel guilty at first, and how did you deal with it?