Need advice: I'm a MPA starting to fall in love/lust?? with a LE officer!!

[Drunken monkey 17]

Hi fellow massageplanet.netites. Sorry it's taking me a while to answer some of your PMs but I've been really busy packing all my stuff and moving. So please be patient.

These days, I feel like Eve (as in Adam & Eve from the Garden of Eden) who have just taken a bite out of the forbidden fruit and now, everything that I once thought was perfect (actually, more like satisfactory), I no longer think it is. I'm actually starting to see things as they are. And that my bf is not as great as I once thought. But I don't know if that's a good thing or not that I'm starting to see clearly. At least, before, when things were a blur, I was somewhat happy. Now, I just feel lost... like a ship drifting in the ocean and I no longer know which direction to go or where I will end up.

So I decided to go see my 2 psychics just to see what they have to say because I'm really at a loss as to what to do. (leave my bf? not leave my bf? wait for someone else to come along?)

Psychic #1 (I've gone to her tons of times for advice and amazingly, so far, she's been 100% correct each and every time) When I went in, she held my hand, I gave her my name and birthdate and right away she said. "What's going on? You're falling out of love with your boyfriend!! You were so in love with him the last time I read for you!! I see you're falling for someone else (LE guy)!! But I see another woman near him!! This guy has someone else in the picture." I told her I didn't know anything about him. Then she told me, "You're going to have some changes in your life this fall. Either with career, with love, or both. But definite and irreversible changes. But if you decide to leave your boyfriend... just know that he would NEVER take you back. So think thoroughly before you make any decisions." (I swear to God, I did not say anything to her previously!!)

Psychic #2 (Never gone to her before but she came highly recommended by all my whacker friends. They all go to her.) I ask her about my love life. She says, "I see 2 guys, one is the earlier one, one is the one you met later. Your life with the earlier one (my bf?) will be over in the fall. The new one, you will be with. But the new one right now has someone else. There will be lots of changes for you in the fall, both career and love." She was right about a lot of things during the reading; she was able to describe my boss, tell me that I had a wedding to go to (true), and described the LE guy I'm interested in!!

So did my readings help me? Yes and no. It's interesting how they both said things will change for me in the fall. And they both saw 2 guys in my life. And they both saw that the LE guy I like have someone else right now. (And no, the 2 psychics do not know each other!!)

The part I don't really believe is that according to Psychic #2, I will end up with the LE guy. It seems pretty impossible. I haven't seen him around at all lately. I think him and his co-workers gave up trying to shut us down. We already have 2 bawdy house charges and a stack of yellow tickets piled up to the ceiling; what else can they do? When my current boss first took over the place, he was really jittery but lately, he says that there's no way he's shutting the place down (he's pocketing about $800-900 per day right now so he's real happy). He says even if they put him in jail, he'll put his daughter there next, then his son, then his brother, then the dog, then the cat... by then, we'll all be 1000 yrs old anyway, and still whacking. So I don't know where that job change in the fall will come from either.

I'm still with my bf right now. Nothing's changed. I'm too busy and tired to do much of anything these days anyways since I'm working 50 hours per week. Plus the whole moving thing has really tired me out. No more going in to work whenever I feel like it anymore 'cuz I really need the cash these days.

So I guess I'll wait around and see if things really do change in the fall. To be honest, I'm not too sure if I really want things to change. I know for sure I don't want my job to change since I'm making really good money these days. And my love life? I'm not sure if I want any changes there either because what if it goes from bad to worse??!!

And "luscious_lee"... I know you keep on saying that I should be satisfied with having nothing therefore be happy with everything BUT, I've gone through a stage where I REALLY had nothing and believe me, having nothing really SUCKS!! But I know... people are never satisfied. Once they have something, they always want something else. And what's forbidden is somehow always juicier. Who knows? Maybe that's why I'm attracted to the LE guy?!

Anyways, I'll keep all you guys posted if anything happens in the fall. You never know... maybe these psychics will be right although I really can't see any of their predictions coming true at this point. End up with LE guy... unlikely. Job change... unlikely too.

 

[elkgond1]

Jeryy! Jerry! Jerry!



or should it be Indi! Indi! Indi!

Indi: "Let's welcome our next guest."
......

 

[jdm]

Hi wumpscut!! Actually, I AM going to break up with my BF. I've already made my decision. I just don't want to do it yet because I want to get back all my stuff first without pissing him off. One time, I came home, the rice-cooker was gone... then the toaster oven... then the microwave... so I feel that if I make him mad, all my stuff is gonna disappear. And I really don't have the money to buy new stuff right now. Lately, I've become A LOT smarter. In the past, I was blinded by my emotions so I gave him EVERYTHING but now, I'm thinking a lot clearer. I know some of you wonder why it's so difficult for me to break up with him. That's because I can't even remember the last time I was EVER single. It's so long ago. I've always had one bf after another. I'm a relationship junkie. So for me, I'm TERRIFIED to be alone. And I find it so hard to meet people because I would NEVER approach someone. People always have to approach me. And even then, I'm like a scared little bunny. They have to pretty much grab me by the neck, and say, "look, you're not running away anywhere. You're gonna be mine." Then I'll stay. I ran away from so many guys that I was interested in; I get scared and disappear when I feel they start to get close. So for me, relationships are difficult. When I'm interested in someone, I find it hard to even look at them. Since I don't look at them, they take that as a sign of disinterest. I have absolutely no clue how to flirt or anything. And I DO realize that the situation with the LE is hopeless. Actually, I don't expect to be with him or anything... I just feel attracted to him and this attraction has given me hope that one day, I will find someone else whom I'll love and who'll treat me right. I was just afraid that I'll never find someone else besides my bf that I can feel passionate about.

goodtime... I know cops are usually trained to recognize people (just as whackers are trained to remember THEIR faces) but I really don't think HE (or his co-workers) recognized me that day 'cuz I just popped out of bed and looked like sh*t. I look quite different without make-up. One time, my bf called me on my cell and asked me if I'm at so and so place because he thinks he saw me but couldn't be sure. And this was after I dated him for 2 years!!!

frankcastle... You're right, I found out about 3 weeks ago that my bf has a gambling problem. I was out with some of his friends when one of them let that info slip out by mistake. His friend's quite nice. He knows what's going on in our relationship and I know he feels sorry for me b/c he told me to be careful. He knows my bf's ex and told me that she told him that my bf sucked her dry before he dumped her for some "stupid tramp". (I guess that would be me!!! )

LuckyGary... I know it sounds like irresponsible advice for me to tell my friend to not tell my boss about her losing her licence since "it could put my boss and the workplace in jeopardy" BUT... if you had read some of my previous posts, you would've realized that our workplace has been charged twice with common bawdy house charges already, AND half the girls working there right now already have common bawdy house charges (but still got their licences). And me... I've gotten so many tickets in the past that I seriously lost count of how many I have. My friend's the one who's concerned that he'd use that excuse to fire her since they haven't really been getting along lately so she doesn't want him to know. She's the only one working there without a licence right now. Me? I wouldn't have cared. I would've told him. Probably 'cuz I know he'd continue to let me work there anyways since I make tons of money for him. Plus, it's not like our spa has no charges or anything.

AND... one really hopeful news for all whackers. There's this girl I know who's been a whacker for 10 years. It's so weird. We were talking one time and realized that we have the same birth information except we were born exactly one month apart. (same time, same place, same day, etc.) And EVERYTHING that's happened to her, happened to me. Except, it happens to me about a month or so later. Anyways, I was working with her a few days ago and I asked her what's new. She whispered to me not to tell anyone but it's her last day as a whacker!!! I said, "WHAT???!!!!!!!!!" I was shocked!!! She quietly told me that she fell in love with this guy, dumped her loser bf, and she's quitting the business. I thought she was just kidding but when I asked one of my co-workers today, she told me that that girl hasn't shown up for work since that day she told me she was quitting. So MAYBE, there IS hope for me after all.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Hey loves_escorts your an asshole that needs to be bitchslapped.

 

[Amy S]

Your arm is gonna fall off.

 

[Chief Boot Knocka]

Leah - listen to Lee. She's a smart cookie who's doing very well for herself. She obviously knows more about this than I do. And who could argue with ass like the one in my signature line?!?!?! Lee - you rock!! I hope to see you relatively soon.

 

[Julie E]

In my best imitation of a big fat african american lady in the audience.

"Honeychild, kick his ass to da curb! He's only after one thang...that cunnypot!" "and as for you, Mista Bylaw officer, shame on you! You is takin advantage of your position to get with them MPA's. I outta kick yo ass!"

Rushes the stage swinging wildly at bylaw officer. Takes off shoe and starts beating him

 

[fixed wheel yellowbelly]

Hi fellow massageplanet.netites.

New Years Eggy: (plus all the men out there looking for love at a MP) Sorry to hear that things didn't work out with Tarah. I know that there are a lot of guys out there going to MPs hoping to find love... and how do I know?? At least once every 2 months or so, I'd encounter someone who wants to date me seriously... and I'm not talking about just going out for sex. I mean, men who REALLY want to have a relationship with me. And that's quite often considering I only show up for work when I'm broke. So imagine how many of you guys are out there, at a MP, looking for love!! I've even had married men who told me that they're willing to leave their wives for me. And you know what I tell them?? I tell them that going to a MP is like entering a fantasy world. It is NOT REAL. What's real is when you step out of a MP. THAT is the real world. Your family, your wife, your kids... they are real. Not us. (most of the time anyways)

I'm not saying that as a client, you can never find love in a MP. It does happen sometimes. But not very often. Almost 80-90% of the MPAs that I've ever worked with already have a boyfriend or a husband. And do they ever tell their clients that?? NO WAY!!!!! Yes, there were one or two that were honest with their relationship status but almost all of us that are in a relationship tells our clients that we are not. I know I don't... unless to the cheapos that I DON'T want to see again. But anyone paying me for a N, NR, or a BS get the same answer... no boyfriend, no husband.

Why do we do this? To get you guys to keep coming back of course!! By telling you the truth, we would be ruining your fantasy and risking the chance that you will stop coming back to see us!! By lying, we have nothing to lose. Is this fair?? Of course not. But at the same time, why do we owe you the truth? Don't forget... to us, you guys are just strangers that we spend half an hour with. Then we go on to the next one. We really don't know anything about you... we don't know what you are telling us is the truth! Most of you guys even lie about your names!!!

A lot of you don't know this but most MPs I've worked at have quotas we have to meet. Most owners expect us to have at least 6 clients a day. They don't care how we get them, whether by turns, requests, or picks. Most owners keep track of our requests and our picks. If we get no requests and no picks, we get our shifts cut or maybe even get fired. Other owners know that some girls are just luckier than others, they may not get much requests or picks but eveytime they work, they get clients anyways, just from being lucky. So these girls get to keep their jobs as well.

So it's all about survival. We do what you want us to do, (not everything of course!!) and we tell you what you want to hear. In fact, that's the first thing I was taught by the first owner I worked for... NEVER tell clients you have a boyfriend. So I never do...unless I never want to see them again.

So how do you know if the MPA that you are interest in is interested in you? That's easy. Ask her out on a date. Tell her that you won't be going to the spa to see her anymore but that you're interested in getting to know her better outside of the spa scene (not just for sex) and give her your number. (Most MPA don't give out their numbers for safety reasons so don't bother asking her for hers.) This way, there will be no game-playing. She knows she can't string you along anymore just to keep you as a client to make money or to meet her quota. If she's interested, she will call. If you don't hear from her, you've got your answer. And NO, she did NOT lose your number!! If we're truly interest in someone, we'll keep your number in a safe spot so we won't lose it. Especially if we see you as a potential boyfriend or husband!! BUT, if she goes out with you to take you shopping so you can buy things for her, then, you've got your answer too. She sees you as a sugar daddy, not a boyfriend. So don't be fooled.

 

[Xylon]

....

 

[Alvie]

or it"s gonna make popeye look like a wimp

 

[bunz88]

Well Leah..... do you need anymore reason's to dump this guy?

While I myself, and I'm sure many people in general can empathize with the difficulties of being single its something you are going to have to deal with. I think once you are comfortable with being single you will be able to choose your next bf more carefully.

I meet many women that I would like to spend time with (too bad they don't feel the same way ) and I'm sure that you will find many more if you just start looking.

Well best of luck.

 

[Izzah Nadzirah]

The wildly popular sugar daddy scenario.

Step 1 - Sugar daddy falls in lust with MPA, and MPA falls in love with Sugar daddy's money.

STEP 2 - MPA moves in with sugar daddy.

Step 3 - Sugar daddy realizes he can't stand the MPA as a person and kicks her out within 4 to 6 weeks.

Step 4 - MPA asks for her job back.

 

[Aditya]

You took the words out of my mouth Leah-so can i get your number

 

[?LFC? ?Torres Torres?]

Hi fellow massageplanet.netites!!

goodtime: there's actually a "part 2" for the pm I sent you but I couldn't send it because your box is full.

to the rest of my fellow massageplanet.netites: I know... sorry to have to tell you guys the truth... but that's really how things work in the MPs... and I'm sure that a lot of MPAs will be mad at me for revealing the truth but I don't believe that ANYONE, (clients included) should have their emotions played with and be taken advantage of. Plus, I've gotten a lot of good advice since I've come on this board and it's only fair that I should contribute to it too.

 

[Z-Man]

If LEs get free donuts from coffee shops, free lunches from restaurants, etc., am I the only one here thinking LE freebees from MPAs????

 

[Sinister]

Hi fellow massageplanet.netites!! This is Leah again. Wow, what a nice surprise!! It's only been one day and already I have 18 replies to my question!! To those of you who took my question/problem seriously, thank you.

I know some of you posted some questions for me so I guess I should answer them to make the situation more clear.

So far, I've seen the LE guy four times. The very first time I saw this LE officer was probably about a year ago. I remember I was sleeping at the spa when he and his co-workers came in. They woke me up, asking to see my licence. I remember thinking, what a**h***s, waking me up and disturbing my sleep. The second time was the same thing all except I wasn't sleeping. The third time they came in, I was with my customer when they opened my door. They asked me to leave the room. But I had already finished my NR session and my customer was smart, he told them that he just got a basic session. It was after this time that I saw him that I starting having dreams about him at night. Then, the fourth time he came in was just like the first two times, just checking for licence. The first two times, he was very business-like. Then the third and fourth time, he was still business-like but nice. However, there's no doubt in my mind that if he caught me doing something I wasn't suppose to, he'd ticket me too. The fourth time was when I started feeling really shy towards him for some reason. And when they were leaving, I can't remember if it was him or his co-worker who told me to remember to lock the door since we were robbed before.

Right now, I really don't know what I'm feeling. There's attraction, that's for sure. But I'm not sure if I want him to ask me out. I mean, what would I do? I'd be so confused if he did. I wouldn't know whether to go or not. For me to ask him out is for sure out of the question since I'm REALLY shy. When I'm working, it's different, I'm just putting on a show. But in the real world, I'm REALLY SHY. The one and only time I ever asked out a boy was when I was 15 years old. I've never asked out another guy since then, and can't imagine myself doing such a thing now. I guess I'm pretty old-fashioned in that way.

Someone here asked me what did I mean when I said my BF was hitting on my GF. I meant that he actually asked her out... on a date! And you know what... she went!! But when he asked her out a second time, I think her guilty conscience got to her so that's when she told me. If she never told me, I'm sure he would've continued. And you know what hurts the most? The fact that everything was fine between the two of us. I had absolutely no clue at all. NONE whatsoever!! That's why, I'm not sure if I can ever trust him again. We've been going out for 3 years now and he's NEVER mentioned about marriage. And early this year when I thought I was pregnant, I was so happy until he told me that if I was, he wants me to get rid of the baby!! You can't imagine how sad I was. Luckily, it was a false alarm. I guess maybe my feelings are straying because I'm not sure how he really feels about me and what the future hold for us. BUT at the same time, I realize how hard it is to find a guy who's able to accept my job. Although he doesn't want to hear about it, he accepts it and understands I need it to pay my bills.

See, with the LE officer, I'm sure he'd ask me to quit and I wouldn't be able to. There's NO WAY I'm gonna go back to working at some fast food joint and living in a shelter. That part of my life is over now and I'm never going back to that. I don't do this job to make millions or something, (like a lot of people think), I just do it to pay my bills and stop those management people in my building from sending me notices that I didn't pay my maintenance fee again. I've got so many bills piled up over my head that it's not even funny. So for me to quit this job would be out of the question.

Anyways, I have no idea if it's love or lust I'm feeling. I don't think about him sexually so it can't really be lust. I hardly know him so I guess it can't be love either. So I don't know what it is. All I know is that lately, I'm always thinking of him. I've tried to control it but I can't. And my BF is absolutely gorgeous, I mean model-like gorgeous. So I have no idea why I'm thinking of someone else. And the LE guy, he's totally not my type. He's really cute, don't get me wrong, but I'm usually attracted to the dark-haired, green-eyed type. I'm not even sure what colour is the eyes of the LE guy. Which is why I totally do not understand this attraction I feel towards him!!

Someone here said, " the grass always look greener on the other side". But they forgot the second part to this saying which is, "but the best fertilizer for grass is manure. So once you hop over to the other side where the greener grass is, you often find yourself in sh*t." And that's what I'm afraid of.

 

[Meg]

Leah, how long have you been going out with Sheik for?

 

[cheer583]

People often ask why Psychic would ask for names, age or birthdates if they are able to senses things..

Leah, LE guy been busy with license inspections around the city. In terms of the job, one never know. Life can take funny turns.

True, forbidden has its attraction.

In terms of the nothing department, one sometimes have to go beyond having nothing before full appreciation. Like Monks Spiritual followers & Yoga masters periodic cleanse their body & mind with stravation. To go beyond the crave and the body crave no more. Need not-> want not. If that makes any sense, not many can achieve which is the demand for Relationship experts, Social columnist, Psychs, and best friend's shoulders.

BTW, you have interesting whacker friends.

As corny as this will sound, Positive thinking breeds positive results.

 

[hippos_in_love]

Thanks for the additional info.
Dump the boyfriend if you can't forgive him, forget about the LE until you know more about him. For all you know he has a woman and 2 kids.
It's not like you have to choose between them.

 

[cheetaking243]

The moral of the sugar daddy scenario is don't put your happiness in the hands of others.

Somehow that just seems appropriate for this discussion board don't you think?

No offense Lynn but I think you need a better plan than hoping to meet some wonderful guy who's going to get you out of this profession. That only happens in the movies and Richard Gere is not in town.